Tuesday, January 22, 2013


I know a lot of women are very conscious of every wrinkle, every sag and jowl, age spots and drooping flesh. I know I am. I see my crepey skin and think, how did I get so old? How do I look to younger people?

No amount of cosmetics or styling my clothes is going to change that I'm going to keep aging. All I can do is accept it and accept the me that is a crone.

I watched one of Michael Palin's programs the other night, one of his Himalaya series. When he first appeared on camera, my husband said, He's looking old. But I thought, He's a handsome person. Sure, he's not young - he'll be 70 this year.

But he's the kind of person I would love to be around, no matter what his age. He's fun, open-minded, friendly. He doesn't appear to be concerned about his own image. He smiles a lot.

I hope I can be like him as I continue to age - courteous and respectful, open-minded, and with a good sense of humor. I want to see the good side of things, and not be concerned that my eyebrows are turning gray and my upper arms wobble.

I want to have a personality that is ageless.



The Small Fabric Of My Life said...

I agree with you.MUch better with age.

Sheila said...

Wow, Michael Palin is nearly 70? Val, you're beautiful - but I know what you mean. It's so hard to be judged so harshly on our looks as women aging, and yet it seems like the men get a free pass.

pastcaring said...

Wrinkles are part of life - all those line-free people clearly haven't smiled enough or pulled any silly faces, the miserable lot! Michael Palin is just a lovely man, and that's what makes him so appealing, and all those qualities you identify in him are SO much more worthwhile than a smooth face or non-jiggly arms. You look great, Val, and I suspect Michael would like you very much - as do your readers! xxxx

Crazy Ravens Studio said...

I have begun to look at older women differently. Yes, we many not be the fresh young roses we once were but there is still great beauty in a rose that is a little past it's prime with it's softer wrinkled petals. Truly, visiting the "advanced style" blog has changed my life. I no longer worry about looking "young". I try to look "good".
I also embrace the concept of growing old. The alternative is rather grim!

Anonymous said...

The thing that bothers me most about aging is becoming invisible. This doesn't have to be of course. But our senior citizens today, and mostly in this country, are seldom heard and not respected or admired as they deserve. They should be held in the highest of esteem in my opinion.
Thanks for the thought provoking post! I don't love my wrinkles, but I'm gonna keep slathering them with creams and foundations until I can't see in the mirror! ;)

sabine said...

I can see your ageless personality on every picture of you. Some posts ago I saw a pic of you in your youth. I see the same person with more experience and more confidence now. Our faces grewing older are telling a story. Mostly we can decide whether it is a drama or a comedy (or a tragicomedy?).

Connie said...

I think most of us are proud of our lived-in faces. It is the media and beauty companies that constantly try to convince us that we should be wrinkle free and young looking. I'm happy to be this age. Consider the alternative! Yikes! Michael Palin. So so cute!

Ivy Black said...

I love Michael Palin...he's got better with age! Wrinkles are a part of life and whatever the media and beauty companies try to shove down our throats about looking young forever, we've earned them!

Anne said...

I think our general health and wellbeing is far more important than any wrinkles or crepey skin we have acquired over the years! Hope you are having a good week:)

Style Sud-Est said...

been ages since i saw this guy , he looks great
I will say like you Val - When i get older i want to keep an open mind, smile and be positive, best way to be!

~julee~ said...

I don't know if I'm one of the "youger people" you refer to, but I see beauty and wisdom and a youthful heart when I see your photos and read your blog. As a woman, all of the things that I aspire to.

(And to be completely honest, I'm a little fearful now of my eyebrows turning gray. ha ha!)

Misfits Vintage said...

Good for you! Today I have released my 42 year old breasts from the prison of the bra and they are enjoying their saggy freedom - WHO CARES! WE'RE FABULARSE!!!

Sarah xxx

joyatri said...

I've always had a thing for older men. Even when I was in my 20s and 30s, younger men seemed "unformed." Craggy, character-filled faces are sexy. I agree, the test is "does this look like someone I want to spend time with/get to know." Like Henny who you refer to in a later post. She's quirky and unique and I bet, a lot of fun.