Friday, June 28, 2013

LOVE IS LOVE



I remember the first time I ever heard about homosexuality. I was about 13, and there was a letter in Dear Abby that mentioned lesbians. I had to ask my mother what a lesbian was, and when she told me I said, "You're kidding?!" I was dumbfounded! I had always been boy crazy, so I didn't understand being attracted to someone of the same sex.

Now, some of my best friends are gay. I know that sounds trite, but it's true. And now they can get married in several states and countries, and the Supreme Court in the USA has ruled that they are entitled to the same federal benefits afforded to heterosexual couples! In celebration of this decision and in support of LGBT Pride Day, I'm wearing my own wedding dress, with a rainbow of colors.

Donna Ricco dress - seventeen years old, and a little tighter than before


I'm hoping that my gay friends will get married and have real weddings. I met F and H in 1979, and they'd already been together for a few years. They live in California, so maybe they'll soon be able to make honest men of each other - 35 years later - now that the Supreme Court has paved the way for reinstatement of same-sex marriage in California


In Seattle, P and D could get married any time – Washington State approved same-sex marriage last year. They said they'll probably go to the courthouse, no big deal, and get married for the legal and insurance issues. I asked them, wistfully, "Won't you do it for LOVE?" They laughed. Their 16 years together attest to their love and commitment. But I'm hoping for a romantic celebration at least, and all the trimmings!

scarves - retail; shoes - Chelsea Crew; rose pin - craft fair; necklace and bracelet - by me
These friends were at my wedding, and I would love to be there if they say I do, legally confirming the vows that have been unspoken during their lives together. And I'll cry like an Italian grandmother.

  
Love is love. Be visible. Linking up with Patti at Visible Monday!

Val

32 comments:

Wendy said...

This is an awesome, Val!!!

I don't remember when I came to understand what the term "gay" meant but I do know that common sense told me from a young age exactly what you've stated here. Love is love.

Beautiful wedding dress (with added color) :), beautiful post!

Shybiker said...

Very sweet of you to do this gesture. And your compassion for others is laudable.

Sue @ A Colourful Canvas said...

Love is indeed love! What a beautiful post Val. And you are truly beautiful in your dress. Very pretty! You've styled it brilliantly...love the scarf, and the colourful beads add a playful element!

Sue xo

Ariane Lasalle said...

Nice gesture Val
Homosexuals and Lesbians acquired the rights several years ago to get married and get same benefits, which was about time i say
I love your wedding dress so much, real pretty and it's good you can squeeze into the frock after 17 years!

Have a good weekend

Ariane xxx

Connie said...

Love IS Love. It's amazing that it took this long for legal marriage to happen. I love your wedding dress. I never had one (we eloped) so I get kind of gooey whenever I see one.

Reva Ford said...

What an awesome post!!! America got it right!
Reva :)

PinkCheetahVintage said...

You look gorgeous in your dress!! So beautiful!! So proud of this progress we've made!
= for everyone.

Une femme said...

What a wonderful way to celebrate! Yes, love is love, and equal rights are equal rights, and as a country we took one small step forward this week.

Allison said...

Hi Val...you look lovely!...I have all things crossed that my beautiful homeland of Australia will follow suit. my gal and I have been together for 13 years...am hoping it doesn't take another 13 for us to be able to marry....we have a mortgage and 2 kids....wed just love the wedding to go along with that!
love is love , Allison x

Megan Gann said...

Awww! How sweet. You look beautiful!

Also I wish the best for your friends, I know you'll celebrate them to the fullest.

When I was a kid, I never even thought of homosexuality as being different. My only concern was if two MEN got married, who would wear the dress? (My 3 year old self believed it wasn't a wedding without a dress). But my parents had several gay friends, including my godfather and his boyfriend, so it was never a hidden concept for me.

The Small Fabric Of My Life said...

Love is a many splendoured thing!
Love your dress.

Suzanne Carillo Style Files said...

Fabulous wedding dress! And so great that you can still wear it after all these years.

What a nice tribute for gay rights. We have gay pride week in Toronto right now and will be downtown for some of the festivities. They really know how to party!

bisous
Suzanne

sabine said...

It's a decision worth a celebration. Here the process goes on giving homosexual partners, living in a registered partnership, the same rights and responsibilities as heterosexual married couples. It's highly time.
You look fabulous in your wedding dress!

pastcaring said...

Yes indeed. I am not married, and don't want to be, but I wholeheartedly support the right of anyone, straight or gay, to get married if that's their thing. It's about equality, of course.
Pretty dress - and it still fits, that's good! xxxx

Lynn Marsh said...

Nice dress. About time the supreme court actually did something that the majority of Americans have wanted for quite awhile and should have been a basic right all along.

joyatri said...

Lovely post. And I love the circle-then-star-shaped bursts of light emitted by your dress :)
I missed out on whatever gene prompts people to marry, but agree that whoever wants to marry should be able to. I live in Massachusetts which was the first state to permit same-sex marriage. Ironically, the first gay couple to be issued a marriage license here moved to California shortly afterwards and their marriage wasn't recognized.

Hollie "Jet" Black-Ramsey said...

dang gorgeous dress! My sister and aunt are lesbians and I had no idea until I was a teen, like almost out of high school. I just thought they had super ultra best friends that went everywhere with them. HAHAHA!

ann wood said...

Oh yes...love is love! Great post from the heart. High time for all types of love to be recognized.

By the way, you are looking fine in this lovely dress. Love the addition of rainbow colors.

blue hue wonderland

Tamera Beardsley said...

Ahhh... Love is Love... What a beautiful tribute... and so beautifully done. Kudos my dear!

Patti said...

Beautiful dress, beautiful tribute to equal rights for all. Thank you for sharing this with Visible Monday xoxoxo

Lisa said...

Wonderful show of support for love! You look very pretty in your wedding dress.

Marla Robinson said...

I so agree. So many relatives near and dear to me that are gay. I am rejoicing for them.

Jean at www.drossintogold.com said...

You do indeed sparkle!! I love the dress and your sentiment. Amazing to me that there's even any discussion of what is so obvious. Love trumps.

christine said...

So wonderful! I like your 'story' and your lovely dress!
LG
christine

Mrs. D said...

Lovely dress and story. I hope, like you say, that men and women are able to marry who they love, regardless of gender.

teatimewithtrina said...

What a great post, Val. So perfectly put together, thank you for sharing with us and speaking for the rest of us who share these thoughts. By the way, incredibly wedding dress, and to fit in it after 17 years is remarkable. WAY TO GO!

Paula Ruta said...

Love that wedding dress, Val! Perfect for people like me with not-so-perfect arms xoxo

Zalina Walton said...

That is a beautiful dress. You look great. It's funny that your post this week is about weddings. I just got back from a wedding in Los Alamos. And I was a bridesmaid! You look awesome. :)

Sheila said...

Wonderful post, Val - I heartily agree!

You look stunning in that dress! I adore the shoes and all the little pops of colour.

Dawn Elliott said...

What a great way to celebrate equality in marriage for everyone...and a chance to don your wedding dress again. Bravo! Nice choice in dresses and friends, by the way!

Jan Graham-McMillen said...

You are easily the coolest woman I know today! What a great way to celebrate a long-overdue event. Perfect choices ... and you're all ready to dance at the weddings! Great thoughts, and you look divine. So proud to know you.

The Style Crone said...

Thank you for this post! I'm very excited that we are making progress on the civil rights issue of this era. I too have many friends that I hope to put an outfit together for their weddings. Lovely wedding dress!