Saturday, July 6, 2013

Some Things I've Learned from Blogging


I've learned to be more accepting of other people's individual styles, and I'm more creative with my own. Tights, belts and bracelets all have a stronger presence in my wardrobe now.


Our generation is rewriting how old ladies look. No more Ethel Mertz dresses or Aunt Bea hairdos (unless it's ironic). Gray hair if you want it, maybe pink if you don't.


There are some amazing women in the world, and they have interesting lives – art, sewing, roller derbies, babies. They also face problems with health, families, shopping addiction, and they support each other through these trials.


I've learned that layering has no rules, only aesthetics. In fact, style has no rules, only personal preferences. 


Blogging is a big time commitment, but the only thing I've really sacrificed is housework. 
No big.


I'm not that daring. This is a bit of a disappointment to me. I love following flamboyant bloggers who dress like thrift-store pirates, but that's not really me.


I don't want to put naughty things on my blog because my mother or the government might see it. But I don't need to be wild now - I have my memories. ;~)


I'm jealous of other people's clothes, jewelry, shoes and imagination. But mostly I'm jealous of people who love their jobs. I guess spending my twenties as a waitress/party girl wasn't a very good start to a career.


I feel like a fraud sometimes because I don't actually like to go shopping all the time. Clothes don't fulfill me. There, I've confessed.

dress - Walmart; shrug - Fred Meyer; Tee - Kohl's; Tank - JCP; belt - thrifted, flip flops - so old I can't remember

Blogging has been a little bit like a crucible – it's forcing me to be aware of both the larger world as a community and my inner sense of self. I'm learning what fits and what doesn't. I think I'm learning to accept my limits at the same time that I push my boundaries!

What's your biggest blogging lesson, besides knowing that the best place to start the week is Visible Monday at Not Dead Yet Style?

Val

37 comments:

Connie said...

Val, I have totally notice your style evolve in the most wonderful way. Never apologize for being a party girl. Life is Short. You are invited over for a party any day. I mean it!! Cheers!

PinkCheetahVintage said...

Wow!! We had the same career path (waitress/party girl)in our youth!! It certainly didn't jump start my career...
And this quote here is why I love you, "the only thing I've really sacrificed is housework."
Perfect.

Paula Ruta said...

I couldnt agree more with evrey point uou make but one in particular made me comment; i am also jealous of those who love their job. I wish i could have had one of those creative jobs--but alas.
What kind of job did you want?

Megan Gann said...

For me, blogging has become entirely separated from the clothes sometimes. I still enjoy shopping, often looking like one of those thrift store pirates, but blogging has taught me to listen to other people's stories. To let it teach me and guide me, and let me experience things I never would.

I haven't really jumpstarted my own career in any meaningful way, but I am trying to follow my passions in life. It sucks the soul out of me to drudge through without passion. So if that means working all the time doing something I love to keep afloat, it's what I'll do. I'd rather do that than spend lesser time at a job I hate.

Life is short, and the memories are great, but as I tweeted - I often leap without looking, because if I look, I'll never jump.

Reva Ford said...

Oh my God, Val, you've been reading my mail!
First, ya look gorgeous!

Second, I can sooo truly relate to feeling jealous, Spending my 20's as a party girl (thus just now 'getting it'),I would certainly curse more if it weren't for my mom-in-law ;), and the housework? amen....

The flamboyant pirates of thriftdom sometimes are smiling through tears, which it seems that most of us do that from time to time ;) but....

The biggest part is 'the crucible' feeling. Blogging has made me take a good hard look at the 'bigger picture' and my issues. ESPecially my issues.

My biggest lesson that I've learned just this year is how impermanent everything really is! And I am trying sooo hard to live my life and be present for it, but honestly it is getting tough lately.
My blog didn't pan out to save the world from mom jeans, as I had hoped for when I started. But, meeting powerful,honest,terrific women like you, makes this crazy blog ride worth it, and )i believe) has made me a better woman for it :)

Thanks, Val!
Hugs always,
Reva

List Addict said...

What a fabulous and honest blog. Thank you. I love to come across posts like this where you get to see inside people for what they really are. I think blogging gives such a great opportunity to see the vulnerability and foible-filled-ness of people and their ability to stand strong and independent despite that and that makes you feel you can too.

Pull Your Socks Up! said...

Housework? Phffffffft!!! Hooray for blogging and for wonderful human beings like you Val, for saying it like it is. Since starting my blog three years ago, my world has been filled with joy at meeting and exchanging thoughts with a rare breed of butterfly. Like you! xoxo

Melanie said...

Great post, Val. Lots of the things you've said apply in my own case too. At the end of the day, the clothes go back in the closet (usually) and I'm left with my own self. For me the best living comes when I forget about the clothes and lose myself in something.
Blogging has underscored for me that it's not so much the clothes that make the people, which is ironic considering we are "style" bloggers. The core always shines brightest. I love your core (and your style variations here)!

sabine said...

Blogging gets me to bring my confused thoughts about getting older in a frame and to express them in words and pictures. That helps me not only to bear the situation but to enjoy this time now, when many things in my life are changeing - bodyly and mentaly. For me not an extraordinary style is important but to have fun playing with clothes. Playing is one thing I would not miss, as old as I get. You are playing well and with fun I see, that's what I like.

Ivy Black said...

I agree with everything you say Val!
Blogging has made me put things in to perspective for sure...we have one life...we have to enjoy it. I can't get over all the lovely people I've met in Blogland and in the 'real' world because of it.
Housework? Nah!
xxxx

Une femme said...

I think my biggest blogging lesson has been to be inspired, but trust my own instincts. Cute dress! It works equally well as a skirt with the tank over top.

Joni James said...

Great post Val. I love your confessions. ;) Blogging is a fantastic creative adventure!

Helga! said...

This is a wonderful post, very thoughtful and personable! XXX

Marla Robinson said...

Great post. Love your blog.

Patti said...

Thank you for this: the part about the housework suffering and who cares? I love your honesty and from the heart writing. I would buy your book. xoxoxo

A Matchy Matchy Midlife said...

Awesome Val... We don't have to LOVE clothes so much they fulfill us in order to do our part in breaking the stereotypes that confront us. Just showing up, and being real...the really real YOU that is YOU is what makes a difference. I'm gettin' tired of the blog wheel myself...of HAVING one, and NEEDING or feeling the need to care about it all. But I love to read what you write, and see what you wear and I think your voice is a good one to hear.

Just my .02

xo,
Alyssa

The Style Crone said...

You nailed it Val! I resonate with much that you have expressed. However, you add so much to this vibrant community. I admire your style, your sense of humor and your honesty. Sharing how you feel and what you believe thrills me.

My biggest blogging lesson is life balance. I find it difficult to manage my time because the bloggin world is very compelling. There are so many things to love about life and how to participate in all that I love to do requires list making!

Dawn Elliott said...

I'm having fun fashion blogging, but sometimes things get in the way and I don't feel that I've been very creative...although I have such great intentions! I also have an offbeat style that doesn't appeal to the mainstream -I actually like that part, but, like you, I want to be more daring too! I'm probably crazy to have taken this on...I'm way too busy to put the time in to read others' blogs regularly and develop a following, but right now it's fun! P.S. Yours is my favorite!!!

Gail said...

You look great. Really sassy and confident. I feel the same about wishing I could be more daring, particularly when I see some of the fabulous creations in the different blogs.

menopauselsupermodel said...

Awesome post Val and oh so true!!

What did i learn?? That RULES are made to be BROKEN!!

juli said...

Very thought-invoking post, Val. I am such a newbie, I haven't learned anything yet. I'd like to be more daring with clothing, just like you, but maybe jewelry and accessories are my best options.
You look good every time.

xx juli
fragmentsofmyclothing.blogspot.com

Sacramento Amate said...

Looking sooooooooooooooooo good, Val
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I cannot leave the house without a belt, never could, hahahhahha

pastcaring said...

I love this post, Val. I love all the various versions of your outfit - great dress, by the way, you look as good in pink as you do in red. And I love what you have to say about your experience of blogging.
Yes, it does require some commitment, I think, to get the most out of it. And yes, the housework may suffer - mine has. But isn't it worth it? The clothes are a peg to hang my blog on, but they aren't all there is, I hope. Just as the bloggers I like the most have more than their unique style to offer; they share their lives, personalities, thoughts and humour. Because without that, I'm just looking at photos of strangers, and I can buy a magazine if that's all I want.
Keep being you, Val, while being a part of the blogging community - that's what makes it great, the fact that we all bring something unique to that crucible! xxxx

ann wood said...

What a great post--so many things here are true. As I feel with art, I feel with blogging there is room for all types of expression. I see this especially with the 40 plus women. You are a gem and your thoughts and humor I do appreciate. I admire the intension you have put into your last few posts. Plus you look pretty in pink! Wouldn't it be amazing to have this community of women in one room!!

blue hue wonderland

Hollie "Jet" Black-Ramsey said...

I've been wanting to write a post like this for a while. You just said exactly what I wanted to say so I'll say "ditto"!

Jan Graham-McMillen said...

Oh, yes, Val! You have learned about layers, haven't you, and are now teaching a Master Class! Looking good and all cute!
I won't blog if it won't get me out of housework.
Like you, the most interesting women bloggers do much more than just blog ... that's what I love about 'um. Shopping can be a drag. Getting creative and dressing to suit yourself with some degree of pleasure is, as you know, the only reason to shop. Other than to pick up milk. Or not!
So glad you're doing what you do, and letting us come visit!

Carina Rosenholm said...

Great post and i do agree with you and feeling the same way most of the time.
Lucky us that still learn and want to learn new things!

Laurie said...

Everything you say here resonates, though I never waited tables. Maybe because I was doing double-duty as a party girl...

Looking lovely, creative and resourceful as always.

Wendy said...

Brilliant entry, Val! I agree with everything you said!
Like you, I've come to respect, admire and grow from people with different views and tastes than my own. I've also come to realize that I'm not alone in my thought process. Last, it's comforting to know that so many women subscribe to the "no rules - wear it if you like it" philosophy.

Ariane Lasalle said...

So clever this post! I wish i was that inspired when writing i tell you!
I love it when you say that we are reinventing the way Old Ladies should dress or will dress cause we are the Old Ladies of the future, right? We are not that old right?

Yes blogging is time consuming and i have my cleaning Lady now, hahaha!

I have learned to push my boundaries even more since i'm blogging, so much fun, but tell you the truth i never know what to wear to begin with, i have too, too many frocks, it's unreal!

I confess i love shopping, i confess again it makes me happy...

Hugs

Ariane

Zalina Walton said...

I've definitely admired different styles, since I started blogging.

I love the different ways you styled your dress. Perfect!

Protector of Vintage said...

Wonderful blog!! I look forward to reading more.

joyatri said...

Great post! I like that blogging has helped me reclaim the confidence to dress how I please that I had in my 20s (before it was whipped out of me by a career, which in spite of being in a museum, did not approve of vintage dresses with ankle socks and Doc Martens).

Emalina said...

What a great post Val, I can relate to the housework part and your thoughtful words are really inspiring.

Forest City Fashionista said...

An excellent, thought-provoking post. My blog has always been more about the person behind the clothes, but the clothes provide the creative means of expression, at least for me. I don't have a significant talent for painting, sculpture, or making stuff, so my body is my canvas. What I've learned from having my blog is that there are other women out there like me, just not where I live, and sometimes it's hard being an island unto yourself. Thank god for the internet.

WendyB said...

"I've learned to be more accepting of other people's individual styles, and I'm more creative with my own." -- same here and thank goodness! :-)

That's Not My Age said...

Totally agree, Val. I'm not a huge fan of shopping either & blogging is so much better than housework!